April 7th 2025
Hello hello!
So if you’ve been here for a while, you’ll have noticed this weeks Momentum Monday (on a Sunday) did not in fact show up on Sunday. (If you’re new here you wouldn’t have noticed this, but these emails usually land in your inbox on Sunday to give you a little extra prep time).
The reason for this is…
I straight up forgot to write this email.
Not like “oops I’m running behind” forgot. I mean forgot it existed. 😳
And that is wild because I’ve been writing and sending this bad boy for 7 months. SEVEN. I’ve written and sent it through holidays, travel chaos, deadlines, meltdowns—you name it. But this weekend I went on a big mountain trip, and somewhere between packing snacks and clawing through snow fields, Momentum Monday just… poof vanished from my brain.
Cue the moment, hours before send time, when I realized it and could only scream, “F*CCCCKKKKK!” into the wilderness. Very cathartic. Highly recommend.
But here’s what I’m not gonna do:
❌ Let one missed email define the last 6 months of consistency
❌ Let this moment convince me to quietly let Momentum Monday die in a ditch
❌ Beat myself up all week
❌ Let this one fumble turn into a shame spiral
❌ Let one weekend glitch unravel my whole week
Instead, I’m choosing to pause, reflect, and course correct.
Full disclosure: I almost played this as a “oh I meant to do that/took a Spring breather” moment. It seemed easier to let you all think I took a “planned break” than own up to the fact that I completely dropped the ball. But then I thought, “that’s some shady shit, Leah! Be honest with the people and let them know what really happened. Someone out there with need/appreciate this moment of humanness.”
The truth is that even though I work REALLY hard to keep my ADHD in check and it has become exponentially easier, I still have ADHD. She is alive and well and sometimes she is RAAAAGING. It is what it is.
But…
💬 Just because I dropped the ball doesn’t mean I’ll drop the whole week.
Yep—I missed sending Momentum Monday for the first time in 26 weeks. That stung. I could’ve let that one slip spiral me into a full-on shame meltdown. I could’ve told myself I failed, that I’m unreliable, that I clearly can’t be trusted with a system. (Sound familiar?) But instead, I took a breath, felt the disappointment of messing up, and reminded myself of something crucial:
One dropped ball does not mean you fumble the whole game.
So I picked it up.
Momentum Monday doesn’t disappear just because I missed one.
You don’t lose progress just because you had an off day.
And this week isn’t ruined just because it started with a stumble.
That’s not how momentum works.
Momentum is about moving forward—even if you trip.
So if you’re beating yourself up for something you forgot, missed, or dropped this week, hear this:
You’re allowed to feel frustrated AND still move forward.
You’re allowed to mess up AND still be consistent-ish.
You’re allowed to keep going.
Pick the ball back up. It’s still your game. You might just need to tweak your system…
💥 ADHD Truth: “Catch the Cue” only works when the cue actually catches you.
I had a reminder set for Monday to write this email—but honestly on Monday my brain is like, “The week just started, we’ve got plenty of time!” Which is a lie. A very convincing, dopamine-saving lie.
That reminder hasn’t been working for a while now, and this weekend it officially caught up to me.
I also had a failsafe reminder two hours before the email goes out. Sometimes that works. But… not when you’re off-grid in the mountains with zero signal and a sudden existential realization that your email queue is empty.
🧠 System-ish Check-In
The truth? My current reminders are built on optimism, not realism. ADHD management isn’t about sticking to a system forever—it’s about noticing when your “ish” stops working and pivoting before it takes you down.
So here’s my pivot:
➡️ Move the “write Momentum Monday” reminder to Wednesday
➡️ Add a second nudge on Friday
➡️ Keep the Monday check-in but stop relying on it as the primary cue
Because I know my brain—and Monday ain’t it. And that’s not a flaw, that’s just good freakin’ data.
🧭 Action Step for You This Week:
Take 5 minutes and check your own “system-ish.”
Is there a cue that’s supposed to be helping you…but it’s kinda just collecting dust?
🔍 What’s not working anymore?
🔁 What reminder needs a new time, a better place, or a louder voice?
💡 How can you build a better safety net with the brain you’ve got—not the one you wish you had?
Are you falling victim to letting one stumble ruin your whole day or even the whole week? Can you sit with the discomfort and then instead of starting over “tomorrow” or “next Monday”, could you start again at 2pm? 6pm? Think about it and let me know if all-or -nothing thinking/throwing the baby out with the bathwater is something you struggle with. Then ask yourself…”Hows this working out for me?” 😏
We’re not aiming for perfect. We’re aiming for persistent progress.
One small tweak at a time.
You’ve got this (even if you forget sometimes 😉),
Leah 🌶