Hi friends!

Happy Momentum Monday (on a Sunday)! 

Let’s be real for a second.

This time of year turns even the most grounded among us into low-key performance artists. The pressure is loud:

Make it magical.
Make it special.
Make it memorable.
Make it Pinterest-level perfect.

And our brains hear:
Do more. Try harder. Don’t mess this up.

But what I’ve come to realize after working with hundreds of humans that no one really says out loud:

No one remembers perfect.

They remember how you made them feel.
They remember your energy.
They remember whether you were actually present… or white-knuckling your way through “holiday magic.”

Were you regulated(ish)?
Or were you running on stress, pressure, and silent panic?

Because those land very differently in a room.

Perfectionism gets extra sneaky this season.

It dresses itself up as love.
As effort.
As “I just want it to be nice.”

But what it often creates is:

• Overcommitting

• Overthinking

• Over-functioning

• And then quietly resenting the whole damn thing

Not exactly the energy we’re going for.

So let’s reframe this:

👉 Less is not giving up.
👉 Less is not failing or being flaky
👉 Less is choosing, on purpose.

Less is deciding where your limited energy actually belongs, instead of spreading yourself so thin that everything becomes heavy.

Less is picking one or two things and doing them with care…
instead of 18 things done from a place of obligation and pressure.

Less is how we stay regulated.
Less is how we mask less.
Less is how we actually get to be part of the season, not just the producer of it.

And let’s talk about FOMO for a second.

Because sometimes the reason we won’t choose “less” isn’t perfectionism, it’s the quiet panic of missing out.

The party.
The plan.
The invite.
The moment that might be “the one.”

So we say yes when our body is whispering no.
We stack plans on top of plans.
We overextend, just in case.

And yeah… sometimes choosing less means you do feel the FOMO.

There’s no bypass around that part.

You might feel:

• a little left out

• a little sad

• a little “ugh, what if?”

That doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice.

It means you chose:

• regulation over chaos

• capacity over comparison

• future-you over impulsive-you

Two things can exist at the same time:
You can feel FOMO and feel more peaceful.
You can skip something and still live a full, meaningful life.
You can disappoint a moment and protect your nervous system.

And when you actually let FOMO pass, instead of letting it drive the bus, what’s often waiting on the other side?

More ease.
More softness.
More joy that lasts longer than one night.

This Week’s Gentle Action

Ask yourself:

• If I were only allowed to care deeply about two or three things this week (or this season)… what would they be?

• Where am I trying to prove something instead of protect my energy?

• What could I let be good enough on purpose?

Then consciously release one thing that’s costing you more than it’s giving.

Not as a failure.
As a decision. 

You don’t have to shrink yourself into some “low-maintenance chill version” of the holidays.
And you also don’t have to set yourself on fire trying to make everything perfect.

There is a middle ground.

That’s where presence lives.
That’s where connection gets to breathe.
That’s where your nervous system gets to stay online.

Less pressure.
More meaning.
Less performance.
More real.

You’re allowed to choose that.

See you next week,

Leah 🌶️

P.S. If this week stirred something in you, the “I’m tired of doing life on hard mode” kind of feeling, you don’t have to carry that alone.

You don’t have to know exactly what needs to change yet.
You just have to notice that your nervous system is asking for support.

You can choose:

• A free call to look at where you’re overextending and what “less but better” could actually look like for your life
• A follow-up support call to steady your footing through this season
• Or a place inside The ADHD Collective where you don’t have to explain your brain and you’re not doing this alone

You’re not behind.
You’re not broken.
And you don’t need to become some new version of yourself overnight.