Happy Momentum Monday (on a Sunday)!

Quick question: have you ever felt anxious the second things got too quiet? Like your brain low-key panics when there’s nothing to do, nowhere to be, no noise to drown out… whatever the hell starts bubbling up when you’re still?

Yeah. You’re not alone. This week, we’re talking about a flavor of anxiety that hits different for ADHDers—the fear of boredom. But spoiler alert: it’s not really boredom we’re afraid of.

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Why This Shows Up in ADHD Brains

ADHD brains are wired for stimulation. We chase novelty, avoid monotony, and thrive when things are fast, fun, or urgent. Stillness? Boredom? That’s like death to dopamine. BUT—sometimes that restlessness is actually camouflage for something deeper.

Sometimes, we’re not avoiding boredom—we’re avoiding our own damn thoughts.

Because sitting still means we might have to confront the stuff we’ve been stuffing in the mental junk drawer: self-doubt, unprocessed emotions, shame spirals from last week’s productivity crash, that unfinished to-do list, or just a whole lot of “not enough-ness.”

It’s easier to stay busy than it is to feel uncomfortable.

But here’s the kicker: if we don’t practice being still, we never learn that we can survive it. That our thoughts aren’t actually dangerous. That boredom is a bridge, not a wall.

Why This Actually Matters (Especially for ADHDers)

I know this feels more like therapy homework than a productivity hack, but this is actually ADHD core work. Here’s why it matters:

➤ Emotional Regulation

ADHD can make emotions hit like a freight train. Sitting with stillness helps us learn to feel without immediately reacting, stuffing it down, or spinning out. It’s a slow burn skill that strengthens every time you choose to pause instead of push.

➤ Impulse Control

This doesn’t just mean resisting the urge to eat cookies for breakfast (although… relatable). It also means resisting the urge to distract ourselves from discomfort. Like picking up your phone the second your brain gets quiet, or cleaning the fridge instead of crying. Sometimes you need to cry. Sometimes you need to scream into a pillow. That’s not dysfunction. That’s leaning in and releasing.

No need to hold on to that shit. It will only build up and eventually feel like it’s strangling you.

So yeah. If your quiet moment brings up tears, rage, the urge to scream into the void or punch a pillow? That’s not a failure. That’s energy moving. It’s your nervous system processing what’s been backed up in the queue.

Habits to Try This Week

Let’s not aim for inner peace just yet—let’s aim for inner tolerance. Start small:

Schedule a 5-Minute “Sit With It” Session

Pick one moment this week to sit in silence—no phone, no music, no podcast. Just five minutes. Breathe. Stare at a candle. Just be.

Name the Noise

If a heavy or critical thought pops up, call it out like weather: “Oh, there’s the ‘I suck at life’ cloud again.” Naming = power.

Create a “Boredom Buffer” Toolkit

After sitting still, give yourself options: go for a walk, stretch, fold socks. You’re not avoiding—you’re transitioning.

Use a Timer to Contain the Discomfort

Your nervous system can do 3 minutes. Or 5. Use a timer and give your emotions a safe window to move through you.

Action Item:

This week, take one moment of intentional stillness.
No distractions. Just you and whatever bubbles up.

Let it feel weird. Let it feel big. Let yourself cry, scream, breathe, or stare at the ceiling wondering what the hell you’re doing. It all counts.

Remember: The goal isn’t to like stillness. It’s to learn that you can hold it. It’s to know you can survive it—and realize you’re stronger than the thoughts you’re scared of. That’s where emotional strength starts.

Your “sit with it” moment got you feelin some typa way? Hit reply and tell me—sometimes we just need to get it out and tell someone, ANYONE what’s come up.

Until next week,

Leah

P.S. Did you miss last weeks email – Controlling the Controllables where we take a look at how to tackle things that are actually within your control? If so (or if you’d just like a refresher) Click here to check out the blog post and video!