November 2nd 2025
Hey friend,
This one’s going to feel a little different. It’s not a list of practical ADHD hacks or clever prep strategies. It’s a deep breath. A moment to get honest.
Because this week, I want to talk about something that’s been bubbling up for me, and maybe for you too:
What if I’m not “adulty” enough?
Yeah, I pay bills and make doctor’s appointments (sometimes), but some days I swear I feel like a 14-year-old girl trying to fake it ’till I make it. Other days? It’s giving toddler-in-a-trench-coat vibes. Full emotional rollercoaster. Zero chill. 
And on some level, that’s fine. I like that I’m still playful and weird and a little bit chaotic. That part of me is pure gold. And it allows me to be a really effective coach.
But some days? Some days it’s f*cking exhausting.
Not feeling “adulty” enough can seep into everything:
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The mess in the kitchen (Real adults don’t live like this… right?)
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The out of sight out of mind emails, the invoice oversights, the forgotten oil change
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The art I still haven’t hung up
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The gym membership I’m ghosting like it offended me
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That whole “nourish your mind, body and soul” thing I keep meaning to be better at
The voice in my head whispers:
“Adults handle this. Adults do better. You’re still behind. You’re falling more behind.”
And the worst part? I know that voice is lying. I coach people through this sh*t every day. I can logically reframe it all.
But not today.
Today, it just feels heavy. And you know what? That’s okay.
Maybe what I really need isn’t more grace or more effort.
Maybe I just need a minute to feel the feels.
So here’s your permission slip too.
If you’ve been “compassioning” your way through something tough—constantly rationalizing it, softening it, trying to just get over it—you get to hit pause.
Let yourself sit in the mess. Cry. Journal. Scream into a pillow.
Hell, punch that pillow if you need to.
Feel the weight without immediately trying to lighten it. Sit with the discomfort and see that it doesn’t actually kill you.
Because sometimes, what’s really draining us isn’t the mess, or the tasks, or the overwhelm. It’s the pressure to emotionally bypass all of it and stay in “it’s fine, I’m fine, everything is fine” mode, 24/7.
We’re allowed to be human. Full-spectrum.
Not just “doing your best” but also doing your “not so best” and still deserving love.
This Week’s Action Step:
Feel it. Don’t fix it.
Pick one emotion that’s been following you around lately—guilt, shame, inadequacy, fear—and give yourself 5-10 minutes to really feel it. No judging. No shoving it away.
Just sit. Breathe. Be real with it. Give it a hug.
And then? Drink some water. Text a friend. Maybe stretch your arms overhead like you’re trying to pull a little more air into your chest.
That’s it.
No massive glow-up or quantum leaping. Just a moment of being honest with yourself and feeling the shit that doesn’t feel so great.
Remembering that you’re not broken. You’re just in process.
And that, my friend, is the most adult thing I can think of. 
Want to unpack some of this together? Book a free call with me. I’d love to hold space for the real, raw, messy version of you.
Because that version? They’re worth showing up for too.
With love,
Leah 