Hey friend,

Today we’re going to take a look at something a lot of us struggle with…controlling the controllables. What is actually/realistically in your control?

You don’t have to (and can’t) control everything. You can really only handle what’s actually yours.

Sounds obvious, but it’s SO easy to forget—especially when you’ve got an ADHD brain that loves to care about all the things, all at once, all the time.

So this week, we’re giving ourselves a massive gift and full permission to:
Focus only on what’s in our control—and letting the rest take a back seat.

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Why This Helps ADHD Brains:

 Cuts overwhelm at the root.
When your brain tries to juggle 47 things that aren’t even yours to fix? No wonder it short-circuits. 

Shrinking your circle of responsibility = more brain space to actually do things.

 Makes momentum possible.
Instead of spiraling over things you can’t change (like how fast someone replies to your email, or the weather on Tuesday), you stay moving forward with the stuff you can influence.

 Protects your precious energy.
Energy is a limited resource. Spending it wisely = leaning more towards thriving instead of barely surviving.

Here’s the Move for This Week:

When you’re feeling stuck, stressed, or spiraly, PAUSE and ask:
“Is this actually in my control?”

If yes → cool. Make a move, even a tiny one.
If no → imagine putting it on a mental shelf for later (or maybe forever ).

This doesn’t mean you’re giving up, it just means you’re getting smart about where your time and energy go (which increases self trust and capacity).

Ease up…nothing grows in clenched fists.
The tighter you grip, the less space you leave for momentum, creativity, or even peace. Sometimes the best way to move forward is to loosen your grip, breathe, and trust that you’ll know what truly needs your attention—and what doesn’t.

This Week’s Action Item:

Pick one situation that’s been draining you lately.

Name ONE thing inside your control about said situation.

Then move only on that. Nothing else.

Get radically honest here. Take a minute to look at what is genuinely in your control, not what you wish was in your control. This can be uncomfortable and for some of us massively unfamiliar. That’s ok. You can do uncomfortable/unfamiliar things and live through it. I promise. 

 Maybe you can’t control how busy your job is—but you can control setting a 2-minute timer for a brain dump.

 Maybe you can’t control how chaotic your mornings are—but you can control laying out your keys and bag the night before.

Maybe you can’t control someone else’s crappy mood—but you can control how you protect your own energy (hello, headphones or a quick walk).

Maybe you can’t control how many tasks you wish you could finish—but you can control picking one next step, not all of them.

That’s it. Forward is forward, even when it’s small.

Control what you can.
Shelf (or let go of) what you can’t.
And give yourself the freedom to move at your pace and with some peace.

Catch you next week,
Leah